![]() ![]() Or maybe, they intuitively know that sharing their plans only creates mental faux-victories. Maybe they were just sick of having the same conversations over and over. None of the pros were really talking business and none of them wanted to. People I met like Dave Navaro, Johnny Truant, Jonathan Fields and Brian Clark all did something different. The people who have a track record of executing huge things and turning hustle into results acted a little differently. My body language observation revealed idea orgasm occurring all around me, pretty much 24/7. ![]() South by South West exposed me to huge numbers of eager entrepreneurs, busy hustling, talking about their huge plans. Which is easier? Actually executing… Or just finding someone new to talk to? When the emotional high of sharing your plan inevitably fades, you start seeking that positive feeling again. The worst part? It can become an addiction. Telling someone about your big idea is almost as emotional rewarding as achieving it! ![]() It doesn’t fill your body with pre-victory anxiety… It fills it with post-win celebration! When you tell someone about your next big idea, the mental process of visualizing future success convinces your unconscious mind that it’s already happened. You saliva glands (like endorphins and most body functions) are entirely regulated by your unconscious mind. It’s literally preparing your mouth for an acidic assault by coating your tongue in saliva. Your unconscious mind doesn’t know that the lemon isn’t real. Smell the scent of the peel, releasing its aromatic oil into the air. See the micro spray of tangy droplets from the knife’s pressure. Yeah i keep my friends on my mind skin#Notice the shiny, dimpled skin and imagine a sharp knife slicing deftly through the center of it. Want evidence that your unconscious thinks internal reality is as real as external? Try this quick mental exercise: It thinks the topic of your conversation is real and rewards your brain chemistry accordingly. The unconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between imagined mental imagery versus real, external reality. That’s the cause of the massive endorphin rush. In the theatre of your mind, you can see, hear and even feel success as your idea comes to fruition. You’re making vivid mental images of a bright, shiny future. When you share you big vision conversationally, something interesting is happening in your mind. You might do a lot of things after an idea orgasm. You want to “rest your eyes” for a few minutes. You bask in the afterglow and consider a nap. Then what happens? To continue the organism metaphor longer than is probably sensible…. ![]() Even just a smattering of approval from whoever you’re talking to will feel like liquid gold, bathing your ears (and ego) in effervescent sparkles. Such conversations can light your fire, inspiring you with new nuances for your vision. All manner of happy chemicals flood your brain. Sharing your next big idea is practically orgasmic. The truth is, sharing your big dreams with us is doing far more harm than good. This creates motivational leverage right? Sure. When you tell someone you’re gonna do something, something big… You don’t want to look like an idiot. What about sharing goals to create expectations, social pressure and accountability? What?! Surely not! Surely every experience you’ve ever had indicates that this is patently false. Telling people about your next big idea robs you of motivation. I can’t remember who voiced it first (funny that) – but all those folks are ultra smart and don’t need my praise anyway. The concept I’m about to share with you initially came up in discussion with either Adam, Jeff, Marla, Dave or Taylor. I can’t claim total credit for figuring this out on my own. So, when Internet folks get together in the real world, I finally got to use it. On the Internet, this skill is about as useful as a chocolate kettle. What really grinds my gears is the years (literally years) I spent honing my skills in what NLPers describe as “calibration” and “rapport”.īasically, I taught myself to pay very careful attention to people’s physiology and it’s meaning. Yeah i keep my friends on my mind Offline#I can’t escape the fact that this Internet schtick doesn’t come naturally to me – I’m an offline man living in an online world. Meeting people face to face rocks my world. SXSW made me realize that almost everything we know about goal setting and communication is wrong. This is my obligatory “What I learned at Internet spring break” post blah blah blah… Let’s get to the good stuff. ![]()
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